“I am currently a lawyer and do not like it . . . did you struggle with that?”
This question, raised in a facebook group I follow, is the wrong one to be asking. A lot of people aren't happy with their jobs. But without looking a bit deeper, the chance of finding a “satisfying” job is probably pretty small. There is always what to like or dislike about a job or profession, and there is always a way to find “satisfaction,” and even a way to turn it into struggle.
So what might give you access to a job you like? Start looking at what you like about your job? If you love the law (you can substitute your profession here), but hate the clients, that might point you in a different direction than loving the people, but hating to be in the middle of their conflicts, or loving the fight, but hating the administration, or just not liking to keep normal office hours.
Where I got stuck lawyering is in not rolling well with undesired results. I took it personally rather than accepting that winning some and losing some is a normal part of the practice. With my 20/20 hindsight, there was always something more I could have done or brought to my work. And I usually blamed myself for not doing what I might have instead of simply taking what I learned forward in the service of the next client. And then, on multiple occasions, I got stiffed after doing great work; so it was tough for me to enjoy. But as I look now, the struggle wasn't the work, or that I don't like the law, it was that I wasn't responsible for who I was being in relation to my results, and I gave the few poor results a lot more weight than the many positive outcomes that I generated.
Now, I am in Israel and I don't want to practice (though I have the license), but I could see myself doing legal work again, though in a different way than before. And for all I just bitched about my relationship with results, I can now see myself taking on work of an emotionally charged and adversarial nature. And part of that is that I get the difference I can make with people, whether or not we win or lose in the current dispute.
I really like the fact that I am a lawyer, but I am also okay that I am not practising. I've done a lot of things, and being a lawyer is a big part of what brought me to this point. So it's not to struggle with, but embrace, whether I continue working as one or not.
And now I am a coach; so I will give some advice. The first is the perspective I just suggested: everything that you've done in life is a lead up to this moment. You are exactly where you are supposed to be, so stop fighting it. All struggle is is not being with what is so.
So maybe it's time to take stock and see what is the best outlet/expression of your talents. What part of lawyering excites you? What turns you off? This could be something legal, or it could be something else completely. It could just be a change from one specialty to another. Or, it could look like a more radical shift. Alexis Neely is an ex-lawyer who now helps people take stock of their talents and inclinations to design their lives appropriately. Along the way, she gives some pretty solid business advice. I think she's just taken her skills of giving counsel and advice to a more personal realm. I point her out as an example, but you might also be interested in her programs.
And trending now is Jeff Goins' Art of Work, just published, it's all about taking stock and seeing what's the best way to put it out in the world. If you are looking for a different job, I suggest Ramit Sethi's Dream Job course (expensive, but worth it).
And if you want to work with someone exclusively and personally, that's what I do. If you'd like to set up an appointment to talk, visit my scheduling page I've set up a coupon code for you, TaxSeasonSpecial, waiving my regular $500 charge for this type of appointment through the end of April.
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