This is a shout out to those of you on the verge of parenthood:
You'll have about six million nuts come out of the woodwork to tell you how you ought to raise your child. Get their commitment, and then get that many, a whole lot, probably most of them, are just plain wrong.
On the one hand, you can do a great job, especially if you take some time to see things from your child's perspective, and study, and strive to understand. On the other, you can't possibly know it all, and it's a big job you're taking on.
So I invite you to consider taking on a structure to make sure you win.Maybe you've worked with a personal trainer, or a business consultant. If you have, you already know there are things you just can't see when you are in the thick of it.
You're about to play what can be the biggest and most satisfying game in your life. It can also be the most challenging, frustrating, and exhausting job there is. You'll win - your kids will grow up - either way.
But there’s also something to be said for having a coaching structure in place. You can learn through trial and error (how many kids are you planning on, by the way), or you can rely on someone who's been there and studied it and gotten amazing results.
So this is what you get when you parent well:
To my wonderful mother and father.
My love for you knows no bounds. I feel you are always there for me, loving and knowing and young. My beloved mother and father, you are all I could ask for and more.
Love __________, your son
This was written, in longhand no less, by a 15 year old, yes, for parents day, but without any assistance from a teacher. None of his speak English that well.
This is what's available when you are playing at the top of your parenting game. It really doesn't have to be that hard (don't most pros make it look easy), but it's got to be done with intent.
And that's what I'm here for. I expect your children will grow up great anyway, but if you really want to up the chances that your child grows into a powerful, curious, responsible, loving human being, you ought to consider taking me on.
And while you are thinking about that, do yourself a favor. Get your hands on a copy of Alfie Kohn’s Unconditional Parenting.He'll start you off asking the right questions: (1) What is it that I want for my child?, and (2) How is my action consistent with that want? It’s true that iteration (or is that sheer exhaustion) works here as well, but it makes a huge difference we you can get a clearer perspective from the outset.
And Breathe. You should have plenty of moments that take your breath away. But this doesn't need to be one of them.
As always, I invite you to sign on to my list, and if you're ready to take me just reach out to me at firstname.lastname@example.org, and we'll get you set up.
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